Comments on: My mourning http://www.trickjarrett.com/2007/04/28/my-mourning/ Live Brave Fri, 21 Nov 2008 03:35:28 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6 By: Amy http://www.trickjarrett.com/2007/04/28/my-mourning/#comment-28 Amy Sun, 29 Apr 2007 03:42:33 +0000 http://www.trickjarrett.com/2007/04/28/my-mourning/#comment-28 <blockquote>"So when the time came, while I was for it, I could not go in to watch it."</blockquote> I wish I'd had your strength to say that, when it was my turn. I felt obligated to be witness to the process, and that part has haunted me to this day. I'm still not sure why I did it, but at the time I felt it was necessary. Mostly, I've just wished for the opportunity to sit down with some tea and just talk with you. In our friendship I've always been aware that we've only shared with each other what we've felt comfortable sharing, which is never the totality of our experiences or feelings, but I've just felt the compulsion to be there. Just in case.

"So when the time came, while I was for it, I could not go in to watch it."

I wish I'd had your strength to say that, when it was my turn. I felt obligated to be witness to the process, and that part has haunted me to this day. I'm still not sure why I did it, but at the time I felt it was necessary.

Mostly, I've just wished for the opportunity to sit down with some tea and just talk with you. In our friendship I've always been aware that we've only shared with each other what we've felt comfortable sharing, which is never the totality of our experiences or feelings, but I've just felt the compulsion to be there.

Just in case.

]]> By: Eeyore http://www.trickjarrett.com/2007/04/28/my-mourning/#comment-27 Eeyore Sat, 28 Apr 2007 16:14:57 +0000 http://www.trickjarrett.com/2007/04/28/my-mourning/#comment-27 I didn't go through the typical phases of mourning when I lost my father, either. I remember Art being very worried because I rarely cried. I did cry, just not publicly. And I do still on occassion. I was blessed that he was able to be there for my weddng. But when I think that he will never hold my children, I will never get another silly birthday call, or any of the other little things I associated with him, I do still cry a little. I think in this case, you had time to accept it before it really happened. You were able to get through it faster and be there for your family. You are a strong person, and you choose who will see the weaker side. I didn't go through the typical phases of mourning when I lost my father, either. I remember Art being very worried because I rarely cried. I did cry, just not publicly. And I do still on occassion. I was blessed that he was able to be there for my weddng. But when I think that he will never hold my children, I will never get another silly birthday call, or any of the other little things I associated with him, I do still cry a little.

I think in this case, you had time to accept it before it really happened. You were able to get through it faster and be there for your family. You are a strong person, and you choose who will see the weaker side.

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